Let’s Talk: Adulting?



Lexi here,

Adulthood is a funny word, isn’t it? I’m intrigued by the term, or more accurately,  I’m intrigued by the question of what it means to be an adult.

At the beginning of the month, I moved out of my mom’s house and into my very first, very chic apartment with my boyfriend. The initial apartment viewing was actually a mistake at first. I had spent too many hours on RentFaster, emailing potential listings and crossing my fingers I would land a call back for August. I got a call back from a landlord who was renting an apartment in my dream neighbourhood, so proceeded to schedule a viewing. Somehow, I had mixed up the address with another apartment listing in my feed. Long story short, we showed up at the wrong apartment and we were late for the ‘actual’ viewing, yet somehow displayed a charming enough quality to win over the landlord and sign the lease the following week.

See, there’s a lot about moving out you don’t figure out until you’re actually MOVED out. The moving part is relatively easy: bribe a couple of your closest friends with beer and pizza, attempt to build furniture, build the furniture backwards, get someone else to build the furniture and call it a day.

It wasn’t until the second week or so after having been moved out when I tried to open a can of black beans without a can opener and realized that being an adult is more difficult than it looks on the surface; or maybe it was when I purchased my first IKEA shelf and accidentally nailed a screw into the wrong section of the shelving unit, puncturing the wood and leaving a quarter-sized hole. The thing is, a Maxwell House coffee commercial adult is not the type of adult you’re going to end up becoming (sorry to burst your bubble). You’re probably going to frequently forget your reusable shopping bags when purchasing groceries. You’re probably going to forget to buy toilet paper when you REALLY need it, and you’re bedtime alarm is not always going to go off.

Adult life isn’t much different from adolescent life, (you know, apart from science and brain development and all that). Realistically, you’re going to keep making mistakes your whole life, so why try to figure everything out all at once?

Adulthood is a subjective term that means different things to different people. What we should really be focusing on is not “how to adult” but “how to mature”. Emotional and intellectual maturity are the sexiest traits of being a human.  If you keep telling yourself you need to be moved-out or in a relationship in order to feel like an adult, you’ll never feel complete.

For the record, I still haven’t purchased a can opener. The black beans will have to wait. #notadulting

Let’s Talk: Mindfulness & Mental Health

Mental health and minfulness
Photo by: Lexi Wright

Lexi here.

Mental health is at the forefront of the media nowadays. With recent news such as the suicide of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, it seems everyone is talking about mental health…but are they really talking about it?

See, we’re relying on our iPhones and other technology to reach out to people when a huge part of depression has been linked to technology. Don’t believe me? Here are a few scholarly articles to give you a headstart on the discussion:

You might even call me a hypocrite for writing a blog post about mental health instead of sitting down with a close friend or family member and talking about it in person. Don’t get me wrong: I’m understanding of the fact that we do sit down with our peers, especially those advocating for mental health, but we can do better.

The phrase “how are you?” isn’t working anymore. The next time you want to ask someone how they’re feeling, try using one of these options instead:

  1. What are you looking forward to this week?
  2. What new thoughts/ideas are giving you energy lately?
  3. What is one thing you’ve learned recently that inspired you?
  4. What is one thing we could do right now to make this (day, event, moment) even better?

Oh, and if you’re going through some tough times, don’t forget about mindfulness. It’s a 100%, always, totally, free tool that you can start utilizing right now. 

The word “mindful” is actually an adverb that can describe any action you are taking. It doesn’t always mean 45 minutes of silent meditation. To discover how mindfulness fits into your life, ask yourself: What are you most motivated to make a regular habit?

Are you the type of person who goes on walks each morning? Or maybe you’re a snacker (like me) and are able to turn that evening snack session into 10 minutes of mindfulness?

If you’re stuck, mindful breathing is always a good option. Here’s a great video introduction if this sounds like a foreign concept to you:

Essentially, follow your motivation (oh, and your iPhone does not count as motivation…sorry!)

And with that, I’ll end on some of my favourite Leonard Cohen lyrics, a man who understood depression more than most:

‘If the sea were sand alone, and the flowers made of stone, and no one that you hurt could ever heal. Well that’s how broken I would be, what my life would seem to me, if I didn’t have your love to make it real’ – Leonard Cohen


The Dawn of a New Blog

Insight into the life of a social media savvy, wildly optimistic journalism school graduate. 

Photo by rawpixel on Unsplash

Right – I’ll begin by saying that I have no idea what I am doing. What am I doing? I’m well out of my comfort zone and writing about my life. Discomfort aside, I thought that this might be quite a nice way for me to introduce myself to you!

I’m Lexi. I’m a 21 year old female who just completed her fourth and final year of journalism undergraduate school (….!!!!!!!). I can’t tell you how excited I am to be finished school (for now anyways), though I’m fairly certain my head has grown a few sizes larger since the beginning of my degree. What was even in my skull before? Definitely not CP style…it’s a journalism thing.

 Anyway, my adventures into the world of journalism have been quite fascinating. I’ve interviewed everyone from clowns to Swedish metal musicians to medical marijuana producers. I’m sure many of you know, university is a completely different ball game. Being a student is whole other language. Oh, and finding work as a student is another language too.

Throughout my degree, I began to take up an interest in marketing after realizing that reporting was not financially conducive enough to support my chocolate milkshake addiction.  I took a few introductory business courses (and a business law course that I somehow scored a B+ in…). I fell in love with the idea of branding yourself. Not with a hot torch, but with visuals, storytelling, and graphic design. I worked at a photography company and developed some rudimentary social media marketing skills. After I felt confident in my skill-set, I began freelancing for local entrepreneurs.

As it turns out, businesses need journalists almost more than news agencies need journalists. My freelancing consisted of designing infographics, making presentations, developing videos, sending off newsletter campaigns, and taking photographs. Loads and loads of photographs. Photography became – and still is – an enormous passion of mine.

Now, here I am; writing a blog and keeping up with my freelancing and contracting adventures. As a personal aside, I’m lucky enough to live with my mom and sister who have 100% supported my skills in the mystical language of content and social media marketing. My boyfriend, Eric, has probably passively learned how to make an effective Facebook ad campaign. He has no marketing background, but the other day he made reference to Hootsuite. I felt so proud!

At the moment I’m starting to work on some video content to get up on my website. I’ll try my best to keep this a surprise, but video content is some of the best content you can have. That goes for any business.

I think that’s about it from me this time. I’m going to grab a matcha latte and take an epsom salt bath. I’ll be posting again soon, I’m sure.

Thanks for having a read. Have a great long weekend, everyone!